HELP!!!!

Life provides suffering.Healing requires HELP.

Whether you saw it it coming or didn’t, the feeling is the same: you’re devastated. You gasp at your vulnerability and wonder, “Why did this happen?”

Life dishes up so many hardships: heartbreak, illness, injury, death, abandonment. Though we may share similar experiences, every hurt is personal. No matter how many times well-meaning people say, “We understand,” they don’t. You may even resent them for trying.

As a friend,sister, aunt,and someone special, I’ve sat with many wounded people. I witness their pain and do my best to make space for it.  Even when they cry out, “Why did this happen?” I try not to engage in reactive comforting. Advice or quick answers always feel false, even insulting, when someone is deeply hurt.

When you’re viciously knocked down by life, don’t get right back up. Like tripping and falling, you have the impulse to rise and start moving again. But ignoring a serious injury will make it worse. Pain demands attention, it needs to acknowledged and embraced before you can move on.

==>How to Support Your Healing Process

1. Honor Your Pain:

The avoidance of pain increases it. To heal, you must pass through the doorway of grief. Emotional wounds are beyond “sadness”; they’re felt in the depths of your being. Honor your pain, don’t run from it. Unplug, put time aside to reflect, and give yourself permission to grieve. If well meaning people push you to “get over it,” ignore them. Time and patience are key to recovery. Surround yourself with friends who understand that.

2. Reach Out:

Being alone is part of healing, but long periods of isolation are unhealthy. Deep pain always brings out personal demons, such as blaming yourself, embracing victimhood or bitterness. Such choices breed entrapment, not freedom. Reach out to friends, find support groups or twelve step programs, seek comfort in prayer, meditation whatever brings you peace of mind. Instead of longing for a miracle, create one.

3.Take a Break:

It’s important to take a break from your pain, and engage in healthy compartmentalization. Everyone finds relief in different ways. Some find it creative activities such as writing, reading, music, art, or movies. Others find it in movement such as dance, hiking, long walks, etc. Choose a task that allows you to escape by stepping into another reality, even if it’s only for a few moments. Don’t fret, your pain will be waiting for you when you get back, but you’ll be better fortified, rested and ready to face it.

4. Learn from It:

I’ve heard it been said that the road to wisdom is paved with suffering. Reflecting, exploring, and pondering, without self-attack or blame, opens you up to greater understanding and compassion for yourself and others. An attitude of learning will help you unearth value in the experience. You may also discover a curious new freedom: recovering from an emotional trauma or heartbreak makes you stronger, wiser and more resilient.

5. Move On

Some people allow suffering to define them, shape them and, ultimately, rob of them of living.After you give yourself time to grieve and mourn, after you reach out to others for support and make space for your recovery, you have to make a decision: will you allow emotional pain hold you back or will you decide to use it to propel you in a new direction?  MOVE ON.

And after you have done it all, just look ahead and never look back. It’s gonna be a good ride, sit back relax and enjoy. Face every hurdles with a bold attitude. Fight it. Defeat it. And come out as a winner.

I have had bad days. I have had bad times infact when i went into a very bad depression and all the above listed things are the ones i did to come out of my depression and pain. Trust me healing yourself is only for the strong hearted, and God has made us all strong. Dont ever underestimate yourself coz we ourself son’t know our worth.

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